Jinpa Smith 6/1/23 Jinpa Smith 6/1/23

Ah, distinctly, I remember it was in the bleak December

I sometimes work with clients on catching their mind as it embellishes a moment and builds it from nothing except habit and fear. Chasing a story where someone means something mean. A story where someone hates forever. A story where grief is permanent, where we are forever flawed, where we cannot mend.

Jinpa Smith 6/1/23 Jinpa Smith 6/1/23

the one

I've spent half my life either looking for ‘the one’, wondering if the one I'm with is ‘the one’, or deciding there's no such thing as ‘the one’. Several of my clients grapple with the same quandary. Do we settle? Do we wait to find this perfect-for-us person? Or do we look for another framework through which to see romantic relationships?

Jinpa Smith 6/1/23 Jinpa Smith 6/1/23

impermanence

“This body of ours is impermanent, like a feather on a high mountain pass. “

Machig Labdron

Jinpa Smith 6/1/23 Jinpa Smith 6/1/23

Retreat

Last week I was sent an invitation to a retreat. it was called “7 day ‘Create Your Life’ Self-Development Retreat” and it promised it would also be life-changing.

Jinpa Smith 6/1/23 Jinpa Smith 6/1/23

Temperance

Some of my clients at the moment are grappling with the issue of how to avoid slipping into co-dependency in their relationship, whilst maintaining a grounded sense of self. I’m grappling wth this too.

Jinpa Smith 5/30/23 Jinpa Smith 5/30/23

Shoes and compromise

I was talking to a client recently and he was grappling with an issue that many of us also face in our own relationships. How far do we compromise for the sake of the other person? Here is a frivolous example from my own life.